First things first, I haven’t updated on the whole family situaion that I wrote about last time. I guess things are better, AJ worked some stuff out with his family and I tried my hardest to stay out of it, and that seemed to work for everyone. I’m sure that this isn’t over, but for now it seems to have calmed down and that is all I can say about that. On to my next dilemma…
I have been seriously thinking about my I mean, our, wedding. We were planning on having the regular thing, the wedding in the church followed by large reception with catered food, DJ and open bar. But we were talking the other day, and there is no way that we are going to be able to afford a honeymoon. When AJ and I first announced our engagement, both sets of my parents (ie: mom and stepdad, dad and stepmom) offered to pay for a honeymoon for us if we didn’t want to do the whole big wedding. At the time I blew them off, but upon further reflection I am seriously rethinking. I talked to my dad the other day, and he suggested still getting married in the church, because that is very important to me for reasons a.) because I feel it is important to make that kind of commitment in front of God and a priest, b.) I just paid $50 to take a marriage class that allows me to get married in the church and c.) I really want to be able to wear my beautiful dress in the beautiful church. Anyway, my dad said still do that, but then instead of having the huge reception just have people come over to my parent’s house and have a big (cheaper) party there. We would have to scale down the guest list and just have the most important people there, and my dad said that he would fire up the BBQ and we could set up the stereo outside and just do that. Then whatever money each side was going to spend on a reception could go to get AJ and I a kick ass honeymoon.
Okay, so obviously AJ wants to take the money and run. I am leaning towards this, but I just really really don’t want to regret anything. I don’t want to be 5o and saying, “I really wish we would have had a reception.” My mom still talks about how she wishes she would have gone to her prom. On the one hand, I want to have a great honeymoon and really, isn’t that the most fun part? Also, AJ has never been anywhere in his life, and I would love to take him somewhere that would totally pamper him. On the other hand, like I said, I don’t want to regret this decision and, I know it is shallow but hey, you don’t know me… I don’t want people to think that we are trashy, having a wedding reception in the backyard with coolers of beer. I know this shouldn’t matter, but it is my WEDDING and it does. I’m only doing this one time!!
On the plus side it would eleviate alot of the planning that I have been putting off desperately… I am not a planner type of person. I am not good at looking to the future, and so far the only thing I have booked is a reception hall. I should have a hall, DJ, florist, caterer, photographer, videographer… and I don’t.
I just don’t know what to do!!! Internet gods, reach out to me and tell me what to do. I can’t make this kind of decision on my own!!! H E L P !!!!
